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fear of rejection

Feb 14 2023

Our Little Secret

Run from what’s comfortable. Forget safety. Live where you fear to live. Destroy your reputation. Be notorious. I have tried prudent planning long enough. From now on I’ll be mad.― Rumi

Recently, I was in the hot seat on a mastermind call. A “hot seat” is just like it sounds—your question or concern is the focus of others in a group who offer their collective wisdom and insight. 

Such intense scrutiny is both uncomfortable and incredibly valuable.  

The hot seat helped me to see something just beyond the edge of my awareness–a blind spot. I was both curious and determined to bring it out of the shadows and into the light of awareness. I began asking myself, why was I holding back? What was holding me back? Gradually, fear came to light. The fear of being judged, criticized, not accepted–the fear of rejection. That I’ve worked on this before didn’t matter. There it was, again, and once again I began to look to see where I was afraid to be who I am–afraid to be me. 

I know it sounds absurd, but ask yourself, “Where are you afraid to be you?” 

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Written by Tom Garcia · Categorized: imposter syndrome, overcome fear · Tagged: fear, fear of rejection, overcoming fear

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