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May 03 2023

Setting Boundaries: On Being Unfuc*withable

Many years ago I encountered a boundary issue with a friend. The experience was upsetting to both of us and while it did not permanently damage our friendship, it was big enough that it got my attention. 

Naturally, I blamed him for failing to recognize my boundaries and my response seemed disproportionate to the circumstances. We both felt betrayed. 

After dissecting in my own mind what happened, and feeling righteously upset, it dawned on me that my sense of betrayal was one of self betrayal. I had failed to honor my own boundaries because I didn’t know what they were.

It was a revelation that left me euphoric because I knew the root of the problem lay with me and that to know and honor my boundaries was my responsibility, not anyone else’s.

I found a short length of barbed wire and kept it on my altar where I could see it everyday as a reminder, until one day I no longer needed a piece of barbed wire to remind me of my own boundaries.

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Written by Tom Garcia · Categorized: rituals · Tagged: authentic voice, deep listening, self love

Nov 16 2022

Deepen and Strengthen Your Connection

When we lose someone close to us, we have an opportunity to reexamine our beliefs, ideas, and constructs around death–and life. Our approach to death says something about our  approach to life.

Death gives us an opportunity to look deeply into life, to question what we value, and what we need to let go of to live fully. 

There are several questions that come alive at the fire:

Who are you? Do you know who you are?

Why are you here–for what purpose?

Who sent you? Do you know–really know–Who sent you?

Why Am I Here on Earth?

Deepen and Strengthen Your Connection

At this point in my life, I’ve lost both parents, aunts and uncles, several cousins, and many dear friends. Each passing gives me pause to consider my own existence–always a sobering self assessment.

In the fall many years ago, I made a fire and stayed out all night after a close friend had passed away. Everything I believed about life and death had been turned upside down and my life felt like it was unraveling. I was experiencing a sense of profound loss and something else–a burning desire. 

Beside the fire I stood cold and alone with hot tears in my eyes. 

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Written by Tom Garcia · Categorized: purpose · Tagged: deep listening

Aug 30 2022

What is Your Why in Life?

Living Your Purpose

Your Purpose is Your Joy

For years I’ve had the same dresser my grandmother gave to me when I was 6 years old. It never seriously occurred to me to replace it. They don’t make them like they used to.

Above my dresser is a handwritten post-it-note, faded with age.

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Written by Tom Garcia · Categorized: purpose · Tagged: deep listening

Aug 08 2022

Crucible Experience

crucible experience concept Melted in a crucible precious metal gold or silver in the form of a hot heart

Are You Available: Listening for the Call of Your Heart

Our greatest challenges become grist for the mill—the stuff—of our transformation. 

Loss, disappointment, physical struggle—the difficult, traumatic and uncomfortable—these are crucible moments in life that everyone experiences. 

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Written by Tom Garcia · Categorized: purpose · Tagged: authentic voice, deep listening

May 30 2022

Spiritual Inner Voice

spiritual inner voice concept Dr. Tom Garcia preparing fire for fire ceremony in Colorado
Dr. Tom Garcia prepares a fire ceremony to help others listen to their spiritual inner voice

Listen For the Spiritual Inner Voice That Whispers Your Name

How often have you been too proud to ask for help because you couldn’t admit to yourself that you needed it?

Or you were unwilling to open yourself to another for fear they could not hold your tender heart?

Or you stoically hid the pain of what you judged as failure, ashamed to acknowledge or even talk about it?

How many times along the way have you buried the memory of fear and shame, hoping to never see them again? How many times?

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Written by Tom Garcia · Categorized: sacred · Tagged: authentic voice, deep listening, prayer

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